Excuse me, excuse me... [deep sigh] these are the words I heard speaking by the person on the other line... I am not yet through in telling him reasons and explaining things yet he is so fast to react without letting me finish first what is the reason behind... of course you will get the result as "Mis-communication"... We tend not to stop and listen first then react as soon as the other person is done... we talk so much (including me) and we always and always "failed to listen first"... I worked into a customer service and talking to clients without letting you finished talking indeed really "Sucks"...
Patience running dry of course and my human nature is coming out ... Lord help me! These scenario made me think about how I am doing as a Chrsitian in my relationship with the Father... did I listen attentively to what is HE telling me? Or I am just like any other who are so quick to reason out on all the many things He told me to do... Oh, my! I know I am so quick to reasoned out on all the things He wants me to do... I failed to listen to HIM and alot of times I failed HIM... I must learn how to listen and of course obey afterwards.... James 1:19 Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak...
Posted at Sunday, October 16, 2005 by Star-Tariray
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Happy 18th birthday Precious!
"Happy Birthday" means much more
Than have a happy day.
Within these words lie lots of things
I never get to say.
It means I love you first of all,
Then thanks for all you do.
It means you mean a lot to me,
And that I'm proud of you.
But most of all, I guess it means
That I am thinking of you
on this very special day,
God bless you Dear Sister
and that never forget to
walk on the light...
Posted at Friday, October 14, 2005 by Star-Tariray
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It was not long ago before my conversion when I have a daily fellowshipping with my spiritual brother. Honestly speaking, I was hurt so badly on how he rebuked me... straight forward words followed by scriptures really annoyed me... it made me think "who is this man who does not know me fully enough tells me things that i have and need to do?"
People (like me) often hide their feelings behind a wall of words. They use a kind double-talk in which words and feelings do not agree(it is because I rather be hurt than to hurt someone). In my Manong's term sugar-coating...LOL... I have read this on a site which I don't remember to copy the link (sorry guys) A communications consultant who holds workshops on this subject says that many people are afraid that honesty in speech will cost them friendship, love, or respect. So they either keep their lips zipped or say something other than what they mean. Other factors that may impede staright talk are shyness, lack of confidence, fear of displaying ignorance, trying to avoid criticism, and not wanting to hurt someone's feelings...
I know for sure that believers in Christ are not exempt from this problem. Trying to be both loving and truthful can be difficult, but the bible tells us how to deal with this dilemma. Just like what the Lord Jesus done in the new testament, he was so straight forward in rebuking the teachers of the law and that is why many are judging HIM of who he is yet as I pondered upon that The book of James teaches us that we need wisdom that comes from God above. The Lord will enable us by His Holy Spirit to speak effectively and honestly. His wisdom is "first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without hypocrisy" James 3:17
I have been rebuke and got plenty of those - got this from my Manong "you are only hurt because there is something inside of you that needed to die and resisting the rebuke" - how true! as I looked back then, every conversation I had with him always made me cry and made me to stand up for the challenge. There are times that I don't want to talk to him because I hate to hear him once again giving me sermons of the day! LOL... as I talked to my self "Hey i don't need it anymore I got plenty of 'em from my Mom today! LOL... but I know how I badly needed to hear all of those and not as a sermon but as a words of wisdom... I know he'll be reading this...LOL... Manong, Peace!(",) "Bati Tayo!"
Proverbs 16:23 the heart of the wise teaches his mouth, and adds learning to his lips...
How easy it is to use many words
And yet be unwise in the things that you say;
So willingly yield your speech to the Lord,
and hearts will be blest by you everyday..
** Wisdom is knowing whent o speak your mind and when to mind your speech.
Posted at Thursday, October 13, 2005 by Star-Tariray
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